Archive for November, 2009

It wasn’t until I went looking that I discovered what a piece of shit Mary Fallin really is. Right now, she is the problem of those living in the fifth congressional district in Oklahoma. But soon, she will be everyone’s problem as she is a front runner in 2010 for the governorship. Its not that often that I just come out and blast someone in the first paragraph and call them utterly worthless. Fallin is an exception to that rule, and I am about to tell you why in this case its warranted.

Here are more than a dozen reasons why you should not vote for Fallin based on verifiable facts, like her past voting record:

  1. In 2007, she voted NO on H.R. 3915, a bill to regulate the sub-prime lending industry.
  2. In 2007, she voted NO on H.R. 3685, a/k/a ENDA, a bill to extend workplace protection to queers.
  3. In 2009 she voted NO on H.R. 1913, a bill to add sexual orientation and gender identity to the definition of hate crimes.
  4. In 2007 (H.R. 1257) and again in 2009 (H.R. 3269), she voted NO on allowing shareholders to vote on executive compensation.
  5. In 2008, she voted against H.R. 7068, a bill to provide tax credits for alternative clean energy
  6. Also in 2008, she voted against H.R. 5351, another bill to provide tax incentives for folks to conserve energy and use green energy.
  7. In 2007, she voted against H.R. 3221, a bill to invest in bio-diesel from American-grown crops.
  8. In 2007, she voted against H.R. 2264, which sought to criminalize cartels like OPEC.
  9. In 2007, she voted against H.R. 6, which would have ended subsidies to oil companies for exploration and production.
  10. In 2007, she voted against H.R. 3920, a bill which would provide benefits to workers displaced by globalization (read: more cheap plastic crap from China).
  11. In 2007, she voted against H.R. 985, a bill which would protect whistle blowers from being fired.
  12. In 2007, she voted against H.R. 800, a bill which would have made unionizing easier and kept employers from firing those who tried to form unions.
  13. In 2007, she voted against H.R. 2, the bill which raised the federal minimum wage to $7.25 an hour.

She has shown for the last several years that she is unfit to lead. No amount of pre-election advertising, posturing or spin is gonna change whats already been shown. So do whatever you have to do to ensure that friends don’t vote for this bitch in 2010.

Source: Ontheissues.org.


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So, today I decided to entertain myself. I headed over to mormon.org and had an online chat with one of their missionaries. I decided to see what they would say if I posed questions about their hatred for homosexuals in a non-threatening, professional way. Well, it turns out, my missionary had a meeting to attend and ducked out of answering further questions. Hard to believe she left a soul unsaved just to go to a meeting!! What follows is a transcript of my conversation. I may continue this dialog with her, as its quite fun.

You are speaking live with Kelsey, who is a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Information provided in this session is to provide assistance only and is not an official statement of the Church.

Kelsey: Hi this is Kelsey, how are you today?

Keith: Good. I am wondering if you can tell me why Mormons hate homosexuals so much. They spend so much money opposing gay rights. Why?

Kelsey: LDS people do not hate homosexuals. We do not believe that homosexuality is appropriate though.

Kelsey: Thus, to protect the family, much effort is put forward to protect what we believe is correct.

Keith: How is it not appropriate? In what way?

Kelsey: We know that God has ordained marriage between a man and a women and anything that goes contrary to this is not correct.

Keith: I thought Mormons were the ones who believed in multiple wives? Its not just between one man and one woman?

Kelsey: We actually don’t believe in multiple wives. There was a time in the earlier years of the church that due to deaths of many womans husbands, multiple wives were permitted in order to support families, but that practice is no longer in effect.

Keith: I see. Do Mormons believe in divorce?

Kelsey: We believe that marriage is sacred and in temples we are married for eternity. Divorce is discouraged, but we do realize that there are some situations that simply call for a divorce due to abuse or other issues. Ideally though, both spouses would work

Kelsey: together to save their marriage.

Kelsey: Mormons who are divorced are not in any way looked down upon or treated differently. We all realize that no one is perfect and we all have different challenges that we must overcome.

Keith: Is a Mormon allowed the marry a non-Mormon?

Kelsey: We all have free agency from God, or the ability to choose what we want to do. LDS members can marry whomever they would like. It obviously is encouraged to marry someone who has the same beliefs and values as you though, also, in order to be married

Kelsey: for eternity in the temple, both the man and wife must be worthy members of the LDS church.

Keith: Does LDS subscribe to The Book of Mark?

Kelsey: I’m sorry, but I’m not sure if I know what you are referring to. We read the Book of Mark in the Bible and we also have the Book of Mormon. Are either of these what you mean?

Keith: Yes, the Book of Mark in the Bible.

Kelsey: we do use the King James version of the Bible, so yes.

Keith: 10:8-12 says that marriage is forever. So how can you permit or recognize divorce?

Kelsey: That is great, Mark is definitely saying that marriage under the proper authority of God is forever. We just realize that we are not perfect and therefore can not judge others for divorce, even if it isn’t right. I just know that God will make all

Kelsey: things right in the end.

Keith: Ok, how about Deut 22:13-21m which says that if a woman is not a virgin when you marry and have relations, you should stone your wife to death in front of her family.

Kelsey: There are lots of things that happened in the Bible in the ancient days that were traditions of that time, such as this and other things like sacrifices. That is the blessing of having a modern prophet today though, who can let us know the will of God

Kelsey: for our times.

Kelsey: Keith, I know sometimes there are lots of things that we don’t understand, but I have come to realize that if I rely on the Lord and have faith, all things will work out.

Kelsey: Sorry, but I have to run to a meeting, but I would love to answer some more of your questions. I can either answer them via email, arrange another time to chat, or I can even transfer you to someone else right now who can answer more of your questions.

Keith: Sure, you can give me your e-mail address.

Kelsey: You can send your questions to askaquestion02@mtc.byu.edu and just put in the subject box “kelsey” and then I can get back to you and we can even arrange to chat some more if you’d like.

Kelsey: is your email keithontap@gmail.com?

Keith: Yes.

Kelsey: okay. great. I look forward to getting your email. Have a great night!

Thank you for taking the time to chat with us and for your interest in the Church. Please know that you are welcome to worship with us any time, request a visit from Mormon missionaries, order a Book of Mormon, or continue to browse our Web site to learn more answers to life’s greatest questions.

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For those who aren’t aware, I have organized a picket of Sarah Palin’s book signing in Norman. As with any public event, you always have a few naysayers and those with uneducated viewpoints. But I am really tired of hearing from a certain class of them right now. I have mentioned them before in past notes, but clearly they aren’t getting the message. So allow me to debunk the falsehoods about Sarah Palin and my picket once and for all.

Palin Picket Myth #1: If We Don’t Show Up, Palin Will Get Less Attention

Dream on. If picketers don’t show up, she’ll get even more attention. Anyone who believes otherwise is an idiot, uneducated, burying their head in the sand, taking queues from Cimmaron Alliance Foundation or a combination of the above.

You see, the way the news media (which is coming regardless – I have talked to alot of editors and station managers region wide in the last few days, all of them have it on their agenda to cover either themselves or through their affiliate network) works is this: they allocate slots of airtime (or column inches in the printed world) to stories they know for a fact are going to be runnable. They also usually lead the newscast with them and fill in with other stories as they happen. A former vice-presidential candidate coming to the area is one of those types of stories.

So lets say the stations give her a three minutes or 180 second slot. This is probably the amount of time she will actually get. Most news stories are either 30 or 60 second slots. And the newspapers give her, oh, 30 column inches. Now, if no protesters come, the only thing to write about and talk about and show photos of is Palin. Keep in mind the story is going to be written or aired regardless. If you don’t honestly believe that, like I said… time to wake up. Now, lets assume some protesters come and make alot of noise and the newscasts spend 60 seconds talking to them and the papers five column inches writing about them.

Guess what? That’s space and airtime that would have carried a Palin-sponsored message, but now carries our message. Palin just lost attention. Her message got diluted. And since its common to write/talk first about the event and then about any picketers, we also get the last word on the topic. People have short attention spans and short memories, first and last impressions are most powerful and most recalled.

Palin Picket Myth #2: Sarah Palin Isn’t Really Going to Run in 2012

She may not. But most experts feel she is getting ready for a run based on the areas she is visiting. Most areas are in battleground swing states that make or break presidential elections.

Palin Picket Myth #3: Sarah Palin Can’t Win in 2012

This is just good, old fashioned stupidity showing its ass. This same kind of thinking gave us George HW Bush for a president and Sally Kern for a representative. At other times in history, it gave us Adolf Hitler and two world wars. After all, we all knew Hitler wouldn’t really kill all those Jews, right? He was just joking about it in Mein Kempf. Obviously, he did kill the Jews and those who underestimated him were clearly proven wrong.

The fact of the matter is many Republicans find Sarah Palin to be sexy and intelligent. Right or wrong, that’s what they think. Many have compared her to Rush Limbaugh. If Rush were to run, do you think he could win? Most conservatives consider him a hero. He wouldn’t even have to work for their votes. Could he turn a few disgruntled Democrats and promise a few favors to various faction leaders to secure enough votes to take the cake? Yeah, he would have a damn good shot of being successful if he tired. But he has refused to run in the past, despite pressure to do so. Palin hasn’t.

Sarah Palin is a dumb, hateful, stupid bitch. That much we all know and most of us agree on. But it doesn’t matter what we think. People we have felt exactly this way about before have run for office and won. But the party has shown its willing to support her. In fact, she became more popular than her running mate, a sign of a dangerous candidate who is poised to break out of the box and go on a tear. I am sure there were plenty of people who thought Hitler would never go anywhere as a politician too. Opps.

I don’t ignore potential problems, I look for ways to rid myself of them sooner rather than later. And allowing Palin to win the oval office and then dealing with her only then is about the dumbest idea I have ever heard in my life. This is a problem that should be nipped in the bud now.

Palin Picket Myth #4: If We Picket Sarah Palin Now, Barak Obama Cant Easily Get Re-Elected

I have been contacted by several members of the Democratic party who I won’t name (not yet, anyway) who have asked me to please call off the picket. Their line of thinking: if Palin decides not run, Obama might not get re-elected because the Republicans may run a more moderate, intelligent candidate who can spin more convincingly.

First off, Obama has been a worthless president and just as bad of a liar as Palin. So him not being re-elected may be a good thing. But even if we assume that Obama is worth being re-elected, why would we let a dangerous homophobe like her have a shot at getting the largest platform in the world from which to spew her hateful rhetoric? I have a better idea. Lets not let either one of them on the ballot.

Palin Picket Myth #5: The Republican Party is on the Decline, They Can’t Get Palin Elected

Yeah, right. Republicans still have many, many die hard supporters. Most of them are in rural America which controls a huge amount of electoral votes in key swing states. Republicans are still the favorite party of big business and its megacorps that have all the money, not the Democrats welfare moms, illegal immigrants and environmental groups. Need we be reminded that a nuclear bomb, even after having been deactivated and turned off for a time, is still a very dangerous item indeed. The same with the GOP. Despite the fact that they have some issues in their house, they can still raise money and they can still get candidates elected to office.

Palin Picket Myth #6: Everyone Sees Through Palin’s Lies, No One Will Elect Her

Gee, then how did she become the governor of Alaska? Somebody must have voted for her. And lets remember what a couple of hundred million dollars in spin and media buys can accomplish for a candidate. People like Carl Rove are pros at turning bullshit into golden soundbites. And the last time I checked, Rove was on the GOPs team. He damned good at what he does.

Palin Picket Myth #7: Even If Elected, She’s Too Stupid to Get Anything Done

That’s what alot of people thought about George HW Bush and look at all he managed to get done. He destroyed the economy, started two wars, toppled a foreign government, gave away billions to his banker buddies, exported millions of jobs and raised taxes. If that’s what a stupid person can accomplish, I’d hate to a smart one in action.

The bottom line is this: Sarah Palin is a growing threat to freedom now and later. If you sit on your ass and pretend like you are solving problems by ignoring her, then you are only making matters worse. Silence is consent. If you don’t like what you see going on around you and you say nothing to oppose it, you are deemed to have consented to the activities that took place in full view of you. So in other words, you are either part of the problem or part of the solution.

I’m tired of talking to people who are part of the problem. I don’t care what you have to say, nor do I care what you think. Go away. Leave me alone. Spread your negativity elsewhere. Sit on your ass and while I fight for the rights you don’t deserve, continue to try and discourage participation and turn folks against steps undertaken for real change.

Because together, you “lets pretend like she can’t win and doesn’t hurt anyone” idiots are undermining the cause for rights of all gay people, including me. And you know what? I take that pretty fucking personally. So don’t get upset when I call you on it.

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1. Who was your FIRST prom date? I boycotted my Proms. All of them.

2. Do you still talk to your FIRST love? Nope. He turned into a minister.

3. What was your 1st alcoholic drink? Beer.

4. What was your FIRST job? Stocker at a fireworks store.

5. What was your FIRST car? 1988 AMC Eagle.

6. Who was the FIRST person to text you today? No one.

7. Who is the FIRST person you thought of this morning? Clay.

8. Who was your FIRST grade teacher? Mrs. Shot

9. Where did you go on your FIRST ride on an airplane? Hollywood.

10. Who was your FIRST best friend & do you still talk? DeWayne. No.

11. Where was your FIRST sleep over? I don’t remember.

12. Who was the FIRST person you talked to today? Nedra.

13. Whose wedding were you in the FIRST time? Huh? Never been married.

14. What was the FIRST thing you did this morning? Got out of bed.

15. What was the FIRST concert you ever went to? OzzFest ’98.

16. FIRST tattoo? None.

17. First piercing? None.

18. First foreign country you’ve been to? Mexico.

19. FIRST movie you remember seeing? Home Alone.

20. When was your FIRST detention? First Grade, I am sure.

21. What was the first state you lived in? Indiana.

22. Who was your FIRST roommate? DeWayne.

23. If you had one wish, what would it be? Hit the Powerball.

24. What is something you would learn if you had the chance? Bartending.

25. Who do you think will be the next person to post this? Who knows?

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Best, Worst, Last, Today, Tomorrow, Favorite, Currently, and True or False.

1. Male friend: Hunter.
2. Female friend: Regina.
3. Vacation: Santa Anita, CA.

1. Time of day: Morning.
2. Day of the Week: Sunday. People drive slow and religion is abound.
3. Food: Sushi & Spinach.
4. Memory: None ya.

1. Person you saw (not parents): Some beautiful little boy in OCCC’s library.
2. Talked to on the phone: Regina.
3. Text: No texts today.
4. IMed: I dunno.
5. Message over facebook: Fri Prevett.

1. What are you doing now: Facebooking, organizing against Palin + Kern.
2. What are you wearing right now?: Cloths.
3. Better than yesterday? About the same.

1. Is: Tuesday.
2. Got any plans: Yep. Lunch with Novotny and Queer Movie Night in Norman.
3. Dislikes about tomorrow: I have to get out of bed.

1. Number: 4
2. current fav. song: Pink Floyd – Learning to Fly
3. Color: Always pink.
4. Season: Winter.

1. Missing someone: Clay.
2. Mood: Its whatever.
3. Wanting: A nice boy to snuggle up to tonight.

True or False
I am a cuddler: True
I am not a morning person: True
I am a perfectionist: True
I am an only child: True
I am currently in pajamas: False
I am currently suffering from a broken heart: False
I am addicted to facebook: True
I am online 24/7: True
I am very shy around the opposite gender: Stupid question.
I can be paranoid at times: Bet on it.
I currently regret something that I have done: Duh.
When I get mad, I curse frequently: Fuck yeah!
I enjoy country music: Fuck no.
I enjoy talking on the phone: Better than texting.
I have a crush: Yep.
I have a hard time paying attention at school: Yeah, esp. if there is someone cute around. There always is.
I have a hidden talent: Nope.
I’m hopeless: Maybe.
I have a secret that I am ashamed to reveal: Who dosent?
I have a tendency to fall for the “wrong” girl/guy: Yep.
I have all my grandparents: Yep.
I have at least one brother and/or sister: Nope.
I have been told that I have a sense of humor: Yeah. So they say.
I have had broken a bone: Nope.
I have changed a diaper: Nope, yuk!
I have changed a lot over the past year: Indeed I have.
I have done something illegal: Daily.
I have friends who have never seen my natural hair color: Nope.
I have had major injury: Yep.
I have had my hair cut within the last 2 months: Yeah.!
I have had the cops called on me: More than once.

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… then set the Facebook page up right. Some of the events folks list on here are almost comical in the way they provide a complete lack of information as they beg for attendance. Good event flyers answer the five Ws: who, what, where, when and why.

Most Facebook event pages fail at least one of those. You’d think that since these events are often hosted by socialites, they’d know the proper way to setup events but I guess perhaps they need a little help from Keith, the friendly gay homosexual to get it right.

Tips for Successful Facebook Events:

  1. If you are holding an event at a church, recognize that while not everyone is not a church or religious person, they’ll still come out for a worthwhile cause even if the event is held in a church. So don’t get offended when I ask if there is going to be preaching or church service involved when you were too ignorant to provide a description of the activity to take place. Always provide a description of the event. This is best done by providing an itinerary. That way guests can decide for themselves if they feel comfortable with the level of religion.
  2. If your event is only open to certain people (like your secret handshake club, or members of a given group), then its not an open event. Set it up as such when you create the event in Facebook and invite only the people you want to attend. If you list an open event, don’t be surprised when people you don’t know (or do know but didn’t really want to see) show up.
  3. Indicate the type of dress you expect your attendees to have. Its embarrassing to ask “what should I wear?”, so take the discomfort away from your quests and answer the question before they have to ask it. Simply stating something like “come as you are”, “dress casually” or “dress to impress” is suitable.
  4. If there is a cost for attending or a donation requested, this would be a good place to state as much. Nobody likes financial surprises and some folks are not rich and yes, that $20 admission or “suggested donation” may be a hardship for them. Don’t put guests on the spot by surprising them with such things.
  5. Always, always, always provide the full street address of the location where the event is being held including the city, state and zip code! I cannot tell you how many events just have the name of the establishment, like “Bills Bar”. Where the hell is that? Don’t assume that just because its your favorite place to get tipsy, pray or whatever it is that you do there, that everyone else knows where it is.
  6. Always state who is responsible for organizing the event and their contact information, preferably a phone number so that they can be reached at the last minute even if they are away from Facebook or their e-mail. Who do guests call with questions? And this should be someone in charge, not the guy who will be cleaning up. There is no use in having someone who cant make any decisions play phone jockey.
  7. Be sure to tell everyone where to park. Its not always obvious. Don’t repeat the mistake of The Libertarian Party of Indiana, which failed to warn convention delegates that you could not park on certain streets in downtown Indianapolis after dark, resulting in cars getting towed. Nothing quite polishes off an evening of fun like getting your car impounded.

Following these tips will make your Facebook page a more effective tool for recruiting attendees to your event. So use them next time, everytime and watch your attendance soar.

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Oh, I’m not going to list all of the reasons. Just point out one that’s relevant this time of year. The Transgender Day of Remembrance was set aside to memorialize those who were killed due to anti-transgender hatred or prejudice. The event is held in November to honor Rita Hester, whose murder on November 28th, 1998 kicked off the “Remembering Our Dead” web project and a San Francisco candlelight vigil in 1999. Rita Hester’s murder — like most anti-transgender murder cases — has yet to be solved.

Like many cities in the United States, there will be a celebration and remembrance of those who lost their lives. Thankfully, one city in Oklahoma is also taking part. But its not Oklahoma City – its Tulsa. That bothers me. This is a capital city. If any city in this state is going to have such a resource first, it should be us. We’re bigger, we have more people and we have more money. Now, this is not an Oklahoma City vs. Tulsa thing, so lets not go there and I’m hardly advocating taking Tulsa’s center away in favor of us getting one. I’m simply expressing outrage that our own folks here haven’t seen fit to get their asses up or together and make it happen here.

As you might expect, the event I mentioned above is taking place at the The Dennis R. Neill Equality Center, which is run by Oklahomans for Equality. For those unaware, thats Tulsa’s community center. Every month of every year, the center plays host to numerous events of all varieties. The center is what allows Tulsa to call itself a gay community and its the glue that holds that community together in trying times. Trying times like when Brandon Patrick was bashed. Who was right there, organizing community support and demanding action? Thats right, OkEq.

Tulsa’s equality center is more than just a building. It provides a place for small, underfunded organizations and community groups to maintain an office and have their meetings. It plays host to numerous safe, responsible gatherings for the queer community. Its where Tulsa Pride comes together, planning happens and the event gets executed. Community members who need help can go there for referrals, information and help. Its a central point for dissemination of information. When an authoritative comment is needed by the media or elected officials on queer folks, its the center that they turn to. Tulsa has all this and we don’t. Why don’t we have it? Well, I addressed that in another recent note.

In 2010, I am going to dedicate as much time, energy and resources as I possibly can to getting a community center off the ground in Oklahoma City. We need it. We’ve needed it for a long time. Not just so transgendered people can be remembered, but so that the queers who inhabit Oklahoma City can become the Oklahoma City Gay Community. Because we don’t have a gay community here, we have a bunch of queers who happen to live near each other.

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